Ian Curtis wasn't bullshitting when he said that love will tear us apart. Dating is a brutal process that is often punctuated by differing expectations and awkwardness aplenty, yet it still beats sitting alone on a Saturday night alphabetizing your regrets. With tons of online sites dedicated to matching people up by interests, sexual preference, fetishes, and whatever, dating is theoretically easier than ever. Even if you are a bitter, overweight thirtysomething who knows more about the history of the Mego Corporation than the branches of the U.S. government, you can find someone who shares your obsessions with the help of a few mouse clicks. So let's say you meet someone and hit it off, how do you spend the time when not getting busy like Humpty Hump in a Burger King bathroom? Sharing in your nerdy passions -- comics, anime, cosplay, cons, etc. -- is obviously a no-brainer. But what about some idea that are a little more unique... and still totally nerdy? From the painfully obvious to special geekcentric events, here are seven unusual, wonderfully nerdy ways to spend some time with that special someone in your life.
Daily List suggested by The Gerudo Guy.
7) Record Store Day
High Fidelity was no exaggeration; music nerds are just as obsessive about their love for records as toy collectors are about their blue Snaggleteeth. For these MP3-shunning folks, Record Store Day is an early Christmas. Founded in 2007 as a way to help support indie record stores that have fallen victim to downloaders as well as the economic downturn, the annual event hosts giveaways, in-store performances and exclusive vinyl and CD releases created especially for the day. This year, Record Store Day is this Saturday, April 17th. If your significant other is the type of person who waxes poetic about the sociological impact of The Buzzcocks upon pre-Thatcherite Britain, better clear your calendar that day.
6) Laser Tag
Here's a trivia fact that might earn you some points on your next date: Milton Bradley's Star Trek Electronic Phasers were the very first laser tag toy released in 1979. Since then, the pastime has become the only sport most nerds will tackle without the aid of a gaming console. Found in dark corners of bowling areas or in the occasional strip mall, laser tag arenas offer couples the promise of geeky retro fun. Granted, you and yours won't look sexy while participating in the cheesy cosmic battle, but you will get to indulge in your Captain Power fantasies in a socially acceptable way for once. Since most laser tag facilities discourage players from running, you don't have to worry about getting too much exercise. Best to save your energy for the hot post-game lovemaking anyways.
5) LAN Party
LAN parties -- either intimate or large-scale gaming events -- are hotbeds of social activity where you could probably get some with a bit of effort. The past couple of years have seen the rise of everything from geek-themed speed dating events to social media sites like Nerd Passions, so it makes perfect sense that LAN parties would grow from their strict gaming only roots to become something more akin to a mainstream gathering. Those who already have dates can get hopped up on Red Bull and play Call of Duty 4 all night while the singles in attendance can try to woo over prospective lovers by making McDonald's runs. It's a win-win for everybody involved.
4) LARPing
Even if you're not the cosplay or D&D type, think about putting on your nicest robes and pointiest elf ears and going out on a LARP event together. If you're embarrassed by such things, that's mitigated by having a friend doing it with you, so you can concentrate on letting your brains have a joint vacation to The Burning Lands to free the Frost Queen (or whatever). And surely, assuming you two plan out your characters beforehand, all the, ahem, role-playing possibilities...
3) The Xbox 360/Netflix/Necking Trifecta
After a spirited game of Guitar Hero, suggest streaming a movie via Netflix on the Xbox 360 to your squeeze. Perhaps something romantic, like Harold and Maude or Eraserhead. After watching whatever flick you settle on for a bit, go in for a quick smooch that, with any luck, turn into a full-on face-sucking session. Then let nature take its course.. it's awkward, uncomfortable, emotionally maladjusted course (for best results read the preceding sentences whilst humming Paul Lekakis' "Boom Boom (Let's Go Back to My Room)" quietly to yourself).
2) Urban Spelunking
Geocaching is for wimps, the true finds are all underground. Those looking to show their mates how fearless they are should grab their special guy or gal and take an urban spelunking trip to see the forgotten wonders that lie in the sewers, abandoned buildings and disused subway stops of our nation's cities. Sure, you'll be breaking the law and your lover will probably go all Willie Scott on you once the rats and insects start showing up. But that's the price you pay for showing your devotion to decaying architecture and circular tunnels.
1) Zombie Pub Crawl
In 2005, some booze-guzzling zombie fans in Minneapolis decided to combine their love for alcohol and the undead. Thus the Zombie Pub Crawl was born. This inspired bit of culture jamming involves folks getting dressed up as zombies and traveling from one bar to another. Makeup tables are usually featured at several stops along the route so patrons can freshen up their ghoulish look and make the dried vomit on their clothes look a bit more like braaaaains. Other cities took note of the fun the Minnesotans were having and copycat events began spreading across the United States like the unnamed plague in Romero's films (not content with merely featuring one flesh-eating fest, Philadelphia now holds a Zombie Prom and a Zombie Beach Party annually). The best part about all of this is that years from now some parents will be telling their kids how they met while drunk out of their skulls and dressed like Dawn of the Dead extras.
See, my thing is, I am a nerd girl. I know that, I embrace it. However, they just hear "nerd". So, on birthdays I get the cool stuff like a Batman lunchbox, comic books, and my favorite zombie movie. But, I am also a GIRL--no, a WOMAN. And this woman is no different from any other and would love to get flowers, maybe a necklace (that isn't from Hot Topic and has a Batman logo on it), or (heaven forbid) some nice lingerie or a DRESS! I love being a nerd, but balance is key. Don't treat me like one of the guys all the time. Treat me like a lady. Like YOUR lady. *End Transmission*
I took my wife for an urban spelunking trip on our first "date" before we really even started going out. I didn't even know it had a term... cool to see others doing it to. It's like going on a hike, seeing a scary movie (for her) and being alone all at the same time.
In small defense of guy mentality: any card costing more than $2 is a complete waste of money (unless it's one of those musical cards in which case: good choice). I can convey the same sentiment with a 99 cent card, and not have spent 4 bucks on what is essentially fancy paper
Mt first date with my girlfriend was at the London MCM Expo, for Christmas I bought her Mortal Kombat vs DC Universe, for our 6th month anniversary we went to the London Forbidden Planet and to the Science Museum in South Kensington.
I think as far as nerds go we have it pretty much down ;)
Um, tip number one to be the hottest chick at a LAN party? Stand next to her, Jesus did someone order a Brown Bag special or what?
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Whatever happened to dressing up in Star Trek clothes and getting a space coffee at the space cafe?
I agree. Where's Free Comic Book Day on the list?
That's awesome! Congrats!
I suggest going to midnight releases of anything remotely nerdy. One of my favorite memories with my now fiance is the night we waited in line at Borders for the lastest Harry Potter installment, then spent a weekend in bed reading it together.
He also proposed by taping my engagement ring to the inside of a model TARDIS he bought me. It was the perfect proposal.
Okay not that I care who you favor for whatever reason(s) but... Why is #3 "The XBOX 360/Netflix/Necking Trifecta"?
I know it's 2010 and not 2007 and Xbox live has a larger community than PS3 and Wii. But couldn't it have been titled "Gaming console of your choice/Netflix/Necking Trifecta"?
And what's with the Trifecta usage today? Are you looking for another to do a Trifecta of Trifecta's?
Gonna admit, record store and comic shop days compose most of my Boyfriend and my date time.
I've agreed to sit through every televised post-season game my boyfriend's hockey team plays in and he, in turn, promised to sit through the first half of Full Metal Alchemist. If that goes well, we have a similar pact in place for baseball playoffs and the second half. Just two nerds, trying to make it work.
Here's some things not on the list for nerdy couples that have been dating for a while:
1. Naked comic book reading! (Must have a big enough bed to sprawl out comfortably on)
2. Watching & Laughing your asses off at any given episode of MST3K. Something about watching my guy laugh is just so satisfying and makes me happy.
3. Watching a terrible movie like "Mega Shark vs. Giant Octopus"
4. Get frozen yogurt, go to a laundromat, and sing.
5. Three Words: Lego Star Wars
6. Dressing up in costume as a couple and attending a convention like BayCon or ComicCon. 'Cons are a necessary crucible/bonding experience for any nerdy couple.
I saw that movie with a date once. It made me want to rip out my uterus and fling it against the wall.
D'awwww!
Nothing says "romantic" like Eraserhead. It puts me so in the mood that I want to get married and have a few beautiful, darling kids as well.
I like the idea of the list, but I'm disappointed that most of them are gaming/drinking related. My girlfriend is a nerd, but she is also under 21 (so no pub crawl for either of us) and not a gamer (rules out 6-3). Plus, we'd rather not break the law (which rules out 2, and 1 again).
Any suggestions for fun, legal dates for literary/television/film/comic/music nerds? (other than record day/FCBD)
The zombie pub crawl is always a great time in Minneapolis. Didn't know other places were doing it now too, that's awesome.
As of today, you can do number 3 on the list with a Wii as well.
Dressing up like a zombie? Wow. That's not just nerdy. That's pathetic.
It's not so much the anger as my boyfriend and I are in a long distance relationship (7 hours away). On top of that, he works 12+ hours a day at the hospital, doing paperwork, being on call etc etc. I love him to pieces but he's not around even to IM or call on a regular basis. We only see each other once every 2-3 months because of our mutual busy schedules....
If he wasn't absolutely amazing, a gentleman, and a nerd to boot I'd have given up before I started dating him. When you're in that kind of situation, yeah flowers mean a lot. Besides, I really like them. To each their own.
RE: stargazing, dinners, marathoning etc. as not unique, well that would depend on the what and why. Are you stargazing without any idea? Or is it with a red lens flashlight, with a star chart? Are you watching hours of House or hours of Buffy? Is your dinner at the local pizza joint or I dunno, Ortolan, the restaurant co owned by actress Jeri Ryan, AKA Seven of Nine from Star Trek: Voyager? Not to mention the possibilities if you're a Food Nerd/Foodie. So, within reason, they can be extremely nerdy.
Jeebus, maybe I'm just low-maintenance, but does it really warrant that kind of anger?
I never really understood why girls want flowers, considering that they're would-be seeds that got cut and wilt in a week or so. Personally, I wouldn't want any kind of plant from my boyfriend unless it was alive and I could plant it somewhere. (Which is probably why mine gave me a mint plant at random one day. ^^; He's... kinda way more romantic than I am, actually, which might be why I have no complaints.)
Stargazin' ain' a "unique" activity for nerds. Nor are movie and dinner dates or marathoning TV shows/movies. I'm pretty sure that's why they don't make the list.
I love my nerdy boyfriend...our first date was so fun. Lunch, the frolfing (frisbee golf) then a movie, then black light mini golf, then dinner and we finished the evening at the nickel arcade playing all of our favorite old school arcade games together.
We've been together 2 and a half years now and it doesn't matter if we're raiding Icecrown Citadel together over a bottle of Pinot or watching zombie movies and making cupcakes together, its a happy nerdy relationship.
Except when he messed up my comic collection, its in a particular order for a reason!
Apparently you were just dating the wrong person... Try picking up wargame nerds and taking them to laser tag...
Hubby Dearest had a LAN party for his bachelor party. The girls and I got hammered playing the Invader Zim drinking game (which, when played with the pilot, can be lethal.) A good geeky time was had by all.
My fiance proposed to me on WoW... we knew each other for a long time prior to playing together, but I guess our dynamic team of a Prot Paladin and Disc Priest was great enough to compell him to "put a ring on it".
We're getting married next year. At the renaissance festival. We're hopeless.
I expect any children we have either to be hardcore nerds or ones who rebel against us big time. Sports tryouts and Hollister clothing ahoy!
With THAT many computers in that small of a space, repete with tons and tons of bodies? Sucker was probably hotter than Phoenix in the middle of July. That said I am surprised they managed to rope in that many ladies and vaugely attractive men. Normaly a shirtless LAN party is a thing of Lovecraftian horror.
Honestly go to the library or go to a weird museum.
Oh yeah definitely agree with the flowers!
Wooo! Minnesota ftw! Zombie Pub Crawl makes me so proud :D
Mentioning Eraserhead is perfect, this is my date or break movie. If he does not get it or cannot give me a reason why, then he is not getting any, EVER.
Stargazing in Ohio is a MUST. I know, I live in one of the small farm towns in Ohio. And marathoning a favorite show or movie series is a great idea. My current girlfriend and I stayed up till about 3 in the morning watching the entire series of Ricky Gervais' 'Extras' from HBO, which was a great time. And then watched some of our favorite Simpsons episodes, including the ultimate nerdy Simpsons ep: The Radioactive Man movie (my personal favorite). Another good date time is going to the zoo. It's not exacly nerdy, but it is an unconventional date and a lot of fun. Or going to see some live theatre. That's actually how I met my current gf. I was in an adult themed Shel Silverstein play and she came to see it and was too nervous to talk to me afterwards. Theatre is DEFINITELY nerdy and has its own sub-clique of nerds who are obsessed with it. And sub-cliques of nerds within the theatre world, like Shakespeare nerds (me). That is what I got my degree in anyway, so I know firsthand just how nerdy the theatre world is. Remember those kids in high school? Yeah, they all wait tables now.
Why are the people at the LAN party shirtless? I have never been to one... is being half naked required?
I have to agree with you there. But, since the best my ex-fiancee could ever do for a date was take me to McDonald's... That was his idea of a real date. Keep in mind, I was 27 and he was 28 at the time. If he had even showed interest in any of the aforementioned activities in the list, I would have been ecstatic to do that... Meanwhile, we broke up because I went out with a co-worker one night for a game of pool... That and he cheated on me with the skank next door.. :) Lovely memories...
It was a good date night at that lan
I hear yeah. Frankly, I would love to get flowers randomly. You know, a "Just because I love you honey" sorta thing. And gods forbid if my boyfriend buys me a card that's more then $2. *shakes head*
On the flip side, his being gift giving challenged means I get to pick out my birthday gift. And I want Tiffany sterling silver hoop earrings. And possibly, Ultimate Sandman Vol. 1. He doesn't know this yet. Muwahahahaha!! Can you spin your relationship to your advantage too?
I was looking forward to seeing this so I can get more ideas on what to do with my girlfriend, only to realise that I've done five out of the seven things suggested. I guess I'll have to think of activities myself
Married happily for 10 years. My dating tip for geeks is very, very simple: Talk. Talk to people. Wake up in the morning and say, "I will talk to everybody today, not nod and grunt like I always like do." Talk to everybody who talks to you, like the old lady working at the grocery checkout. Practice saying stuff like "Hi, aren't you cute" to people's babies and pets. Talk to everything but dangerous psychos and trees in public.
You will then have no problem talking to the next person you might have a crush on, because talking naturally will be easy for you! People will start saying "Why aren't YOU a nice person, why aren't you dating someone? Hey, I know someone you could date!" Talky people get dates.
People have no idea you're a amazing person if you don't speak up.
and wth is up with all the guys with thier shirts off in the lan party pic?
i proposed to my wife while she was on the phone (an item that is semi-permenantly attached to her head) with a cheap knock-off One Ring from LotR, she never skipped a beat, nodded yes, and kept talking, that will have been 7 years ago this summer...
I agree with everything you're saying except replacing everything Star Trek with Star Wars and that's pretty much what I do with my guy.
And what the hell is up with the flower thing? Are guys allergic or something? The only time I got flowers was when my guy forgot my birthday but he can remember when God of War III comes out. :(
This list isn't a Top 10. Instead it's just a combination of random dating suggetions, all of which are just OK.
Therefore, I formally suggest the following:
-Convention attending, like Comicon, Dragon*Con, Shoreleave, or KFest. Related, attening a panel/talk and signing of your favorite author, comic writer, or actor.
-Going to theme park of your choice to ride all attractions that are vaguely related to your universe of choice. Nightwing anyone?
-Marathoning your favorite TV show or movie franchise. All day Extended cuts of Lord of the Rings, plus the two animated films? Only if we make out afterward. And wine.
-Stargazing, esp. if boyfriend lives in a particualarly rural area compared to you. Hello farming communities of Ohio!!
-Boyfriend showing you his extended collection of retro and vintage Apple computers, parts, websites, complete magizine collections on said vintage computers. All of which have taken over the master bedroom. And then declaring. "And THAT computer is older then you Lauren!!" By a good 5 years.
-Openly discussing going to Las Vegas ONLY if they make a new Star Trek The Experience ride.
-Openly discussing the use of Star Trek Uniforms. In bed. Picard maneuver ftw! Or RPing ftw?
-REGULAR DATING, LIKE FLOWERS, A DINNER AND A MOVIE. ALL CAPS BECAUSE I'M ANGRY. BEING A NERD DOESN'T MEAN WE GIRLS DON'T LIKE TO BE SWEPT OFF OUR FEET. Just sayin'.
Urban spelunking, haha. I totally want to do that, and would if not for trespassing laws - a bit too paranoid of being caught to go through the lovely urban wrecks around my area.
As I've discovered recently, Netflix Parties and XBox Live are very good tools for long distance nerd relationships.
Silver Spring MD has a Halloween zombie pub crawl that ends at the AFI Silver Theater for a showing of Shaun of the Dead.
On my first date with my husband, we had dinner at some steakhouse then went to the now-defunct Pac Man Cafe here in Orlando and proceeded to play games for hours, going from skee ball to racing games and I even allowed him to show off on the laser target shooting game.
The LAN party pic looks kind of... greasy.
Brighton, England has a fantastic zombie pub crawl. Crawl of the dead, tis called.
Nice list, but I'd say zombie walks and flash mobs in general are both nerdy and crowded enough to count for this list.
I tried the whole Laser Tag date, but I found my incredibly competitive nature and my predilection for shouting "For the Emperor!" and "Glory to the first man to die!" were not a turn on.
Live and learn.
When I proposed to my now wife, I made a paper puppet of jaws on a popsicle stick that popped over the edge of the couch. She got it before I whipped out the ring or said anything.
*snif*
My bf and I's second date was the NYC Comic Con in 2009. It was very fun- we got to see the Robot Chicken event, and met Chris Claremont the most bitter comic book writer ever. Don't EVER mention Quaseda to him. Ever.
No comic-con/cosplay dating entry? Seems like the perfect place for nerd-love to bloom.
I personally vouch for Laser Tag. About 11 or 12 years ago, I wanted to get this gorgeous long-haired skater kid to go from hanging out with me in the court yard between classes to hanging out with my group of friends and possibly copping a feel in the back seat of one of their cars on the way home. Laser Tag was the perfect social occasion cover for my intentions. We've been married for 10 years. Now and then we still play a game for old time's sake, though the arena closed years ago and all that's left in the immediate area is the lame Adventure Landing laser tag. Maybe we'll have to up-grade to air soft.
On my first date with my (now) fiance, we went to see the first Fantastic Four movie. Once we realized that sucked when went back to his place and play King of Fighters for 4 hours.
On our first date, we met at a Borders simply because it was a landmark we both knew, and ended up spending an hour running around the sci fi/fantasy and manga sections talking about books and series that we loved. Then we went to Dave and Buster's and played video games for the rest of the night.
We're getting married next spring.
YEAH! great list! how about free comic book day?
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